A guide to choosing & being a pallbearer
Pallbearers carry your loved one’s casket from the funeral ceremony to the hearse, and from the hearse to their grave if they are to be buried. They may also bear the casket into the funeral.
Who can be a pallbearer?
Pallbearers are often close family and friends. Carrying the casket shows love and respect to the person who has died. Pallbearers can be women or men, and they can be accompanied by honorary pallbearers, who can include children.
Usually, six people carry the casket. At the ceremony we can arrange for the casket to be transported on a wheeled stand, and your pallbearers can accompany the casket and guide it. This helps if pallbearers are less physically able and allows people of all ages and abilities to take part.
Our funeral directors can also serve as pallbearers if you wish for help.
What to expect as a pallbearer?
If you’ve been invited to be a pallbearer, it’s normal to feel a little unsure about what to do. We’ll take care of you. The funeral director will guide you and tell you what to do, show you how to carry the coffin, and where to take it.
A casket can be a heavy weight, physically and emotionally. Being a pallbearer is a moving experience, and it’s appropriate to show emotion. If you don’t feel able to be a pallbearer, decline politely and explain why you can’t accept the honour.